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Dating and HD
Being young, and "dating" I feel it is important to tell them about HD status right away. If they cant handle the news...then Bye Bye! But if the relationship is meant to be...it will be!14 months ago
ASAP. It is unfair to lead someone to believe that the life of rocking chairs on the front porch at 80 will be, Trust me sometimes it still woks out. When my wife and I were dating Itold her I was at risk. And we continued dating I became ill prior to getting married and we were wed on 01-26-07. Still happy, HD is incurable at this time but it is not the end of life yet. Life life honestly and to the fullest.14 months ago
As unfair as it is for all of us to have to deal with what we have or might have it in my opinion is unfair to bring someone in to your life and keep them in the dark.14 months ago
All well said, and would anyone really want to be with someone for the long haul if they can not handle that part of your life? Due to the current status of HD being incurable, a persons greatest weapon against the disease is a strong support system.14 months ago
I told my husband right away when we first started dating. I took him to see my family, espacially my mom. Mom was in a nursing home at the time, really bad and suffering. I told him that he needs to realize that I could be like that someday, 8 years later, we are still going strong. He's been my rock14 months ago
I remember when Tye and I first started dating...a friend of mine said to me "why would you want to date him, he's going to die"...we're all going to die, me maybe sooner than him. I could get hit by a bus tomorrow. I remember the first time Tye and I talked about his family h/of HD. I applauded his decision to tell me and to clear up any pre-conceived notions I had about the disease and the affects on his family. I would suggest being up front about it.14 months ago
MY HUSBAND DIDNT FIND OUT UNTIL HIS PASSAWAY FROM HD THAT HIS DAD HAD IT.HIS SISTER TOLD HIM HE NEEDED TO GET TESTED FOR HD.AND HE DID AND IT WAS POSITIVE.I TOOK CARE OF HIM FOR 17 YRS.HE PASSEDAWAY2-7-07.MY 2 OLDEST DAUGHTERS TESTED POSITIVE FOR HD.IM PROUD OF THEM.ONE IS GETTING DIVORCED.SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND AND SHE TOLD HIM ABOUT HD .HE SAID HE DIDNT CARE.WE NEED MORE PEOPLE LIKE THAT.OH THANK YOU JESSSE. LORI14 months ago
I agree. Tell them right away. I told my fiance right away and he's the type of person that he just said, "it doesn't matter. when it's your time, it's your time." And I know he'll stick with me through thick and thin. He's very loyal.14 months ago
I just started to date a new guy after being in a toxic unsupportive relationship. I haven't told him yet that I have tested positive. We have only been dating for like a week. We have plans Saturday, so I was going to tell him then. He seems like someone who wouldn't just turn around and run away screaming. I have hope. I still have a lot of issues with being positive, which makes me more challenging than the next girl. I have a bad history of running away from relationships. I guess I just need to stop being self-destructive. I used to sabotage them on purpose. Anyways, I don't want to do that with this new guy. He seems too decent. I forgot how nice it was to be spoiled. :) I've already spent too much time being negative, and I want to be happy in the time I DO have NOW. (sorry, went a little off subject.)14 months ago
Good to hear on the new guy. Enjoy - dating is always fun with a new people. Hope it works out. Robert14 months ago
ok, for some reason I feel the need to add a comment here--I have been married for 11 + yrs, and am gene pos {found out 5 or so years ago} --I would have to say in the dating process---1. be sure you are fully comfortable w/ your own gene status prior to bringing it up--because there are bound to be questions, and some of them may be seem to be be hurtful, when it is just the other parties way of figuring out the disease? 2. and prob most important===be sure before telling --"is this some one you may want to spend the rest of your life with?" dating and dating to be married are 2 dif. arenas-both serve dif purposes--and sometimes the 2 arenas become one {ie"dating for fun turns into someone you want to marry}-- just be sure with in the dating process that it is wht it is a process, you are slowlly finding out about each other, and dont forget to just lay back, have fun with each other --when talk comes to future life --ie: kids, marriage, house in the Hamptons, you will know when the time is right to tell---------------------------------Looking back I am not in the dating arena any more, but there are dif people that I told at dif times depending on the stage we were in our relationships--and still 5 years later, some friends know and some dont--so that is where I say you have to gage the arena you are in--are you "dating to be dating" or are you "dating to be Married" If you are dating to be married and have a family obviously the other party needs the info--if you are dating to be dating----------Have fun!!!!!!!!--use protection{LOL} deb13 months ago
DCB. I think those are wise words.13 months ago
I started going out with my partner a few days after having my blood test, and we was going out for 2 weeks when i got my pos test. I told him straight away what i was going through, and he understood all of it. I even said to him the door is open if u wish to live but he didnt, and that was 2 weeks into my realtionship with him, we have been going oit now for nearly 3 yrs. so yes its always best to tell, if they walk away it was never meant to be
11 months ago
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